It's true. It shouldn't hurt to be a child. This topic is really hard for anyone who has a heart to talk about, because it breaks my heart. I will never fully understand why or even how you can abuse a child. Personally I have never been abused in any way, shape, or form so I don't know what it feels like but I have been around it before. It's not right. No one deserves to be treated that way especially children. Reading these articles about how and why these kids get abused just don't make sense to me. It hurts me to know someone is hurting them. I love kids and I would never hurt them in anyway. I do think that kids need to be punished sometimes but NEVER in that way!
Have you ever heard the saying "Cuts and bruises will go away but the scars last forever." Well that is true. The scars inside and out will always be there with you for a lifetime. You watch movies about abuse and you feel bad for thus kids right? You give pity to the victims, well what what happens when your the victim of abuse? Will you feel bad for yourself? I wouldn't. It doesn't matter what kind of abuse it is, if your the victim you will always blame yourself. You will always think it is your fault. It's not. It never will be. No child asks to be hit, or kicked, or punched, but it still happens. Kids that are being abused start off on a young age, they don't know any better. They are just kids being kids, and they shouldn't be punished for it.
There is always a voice in your head that tells you over and over again that this isn't right. What is happening to you isn't right. But it wont go away until you listen to it, and sometimes that's hard to do. Just imagine yourself in a store like walmart and your in line minding your own business, and the family in front of you are having problems, the little kid in the basket is having a fit and their dad is getting frustrated because he is trying to do two things at once, so to shut the kid up he just slaps them as hard as he could to just make it all stop. It doesn't bother him at all, what he just did. No one does anything to stop him. People are scared to say anything because if he could do that to his own child, could you imagine what he could do to a stranger. That would bother me, watching it all happen in front of me like that. What is the world coming to, that it's okay to beat your kids. To beat anyone. How would you feel in that moment?
On the news, you hear about all these kids getting killed or beat up pretty bad, and you think why hurt your kids, why take away a precious life. If you don't want them and you just keep treating them badly because of it, then go give them up or take them to a police station or something, don't just hurt them for it. The abuser of a situation always feels so powerful. Like they can do anything to anyone and no one will do anything back. That's crap!! If the person doing the beating was on the other side of it, getting the beating, then they would know how it feels. It hurts. As i said before, I have never been abused. At all. I think the most my mom has done was pinch me on the arm when I was a kid and when I was getting out of hand, but that is all. After hearing about all these stories about being abused, it made me very thankful to have good parents, a good family.
I have friends who have been hit before but never so extreme. I have Lent them a shoulder to cry on before so I have felt the pain before. I believe that you can learn from it all. It's not just physical abuse. It's emotional, mental, psychological. Abuse is also one of the reasons why I want to be a psychologist, because I want to help those kids or not kids that are feeling a punch or a slap every so often. For me to help them would make all the difference in the world. You never know how it happens until it happens to you. I can't even imagine someone laying a hand on my nephews. So to think that some one's niece or nephew, brother or sister, mom or dad, etc, is getting hurt in anyway just really drives me nuts.
I do believe that people can recover from abuse. However, it will never go away. The physical part of it will, maybe, but the mental part of it all will not. You will always have in the back of your head all the horrible memories of it all. This can only make a person stronger. A child will grow up with the label of being a victim. They can only grow from what happened and let it affect their lives in a positive way otherwise it will destroy them. It's never right to hurt a child. Looking into their eyes will always show the truth. Time doesn't heal all wounds.
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